Boy does life change once you have children! I feel so blessed to have not struggled to have my children. Fortunately, my husband and I had our babies when we wanted to without difficulty. Unfortunately, our friends either have already had children and they are much older than our kids or they haven't had kids yet. I had hoped that once I had children, I would meet other moms with children around my kids ages and make new friends to go along with the ones I already had. Unfortunately, this does not seem to be as easy as I had hoped. I have met some wonderful women who I thought would be great to hang around with, but unfortunately, that does not seem to be the way it is working out. This is especially hard since i am now a SAHM. I had worked as a full time, professional social worker for 12 years. I was always around people, be it other staff, clients, or professional liaisons. Now I am at home with 3 kids, none who speak. I love being home with my kids, but I so miss having other adults around. Is that bad?
I had hoped that I would make some new friends and so would my kids and maybe it will happen someday. I need to look at myself and figure out if there is anything that I am doing that limits me from making new friends and see if there is anything that I can change.
Amy
You can try going www.thelifepub.com to make new friends and meet new people. The site allows you to look for people around your area that share your similar interests. I hope this helps! And go Pats! (based on your babies' jersies!)
ReplyDeleteHi Amy, I'm sure its nothing your doing wrong...its just hard to meet people with kids and schedules and this crappy weather! I understand how your feeling and know how isolating that can be, I was the first of any of my friends to have kids so I was definately looking to make friends with kids who could relate to what I was going through on a daily basis! It is definately easier once they start preschool and you see the same people on a regular basis! Until then maybe try a class or even library story times, and maybe we can get or gangs together at some point too!
ReplyDeleteHi Amanda-I would love to get together with you or others. I need to start looking into story times at the library. It's a little easier now that the kids are only taking 1 nap. It's amazing how close in age my kids are, yet how different they are developmentally. I really can make things tough sometimes. Hopefully once the weather starts getting better, things will be easier. Thanks for the comment. I just needed to vent how I was feeling.
ReplyDeleteAmy, I think (hope??) this is normal for all but the most outgoing and energetic people. Plus, with three kids instead of just two, I can't imagine that it's easy to just get out and do things. As the weather warms up, maybe post on the twins board looking for people who want to do X with you (whether it's walk somewhere, go to a playground, go to the zoo, etc).
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I'm right there with you since we moved this past summer and I had my 3rd baby. It just seems like so much work to meet new people and get out! As it gets warmer, though, I'm going to start trying to make an effort, though. We'll see how it goes...
Good luck!
I definitely recommend checking out the children's programs (storytimes, sing alongs, etc. at your local library). Once I started going to these regularly, I started to see the same kids and moms and felt comfortable trying to schedule get togethers with them. Because we're all local, it makes getting together easier, even with little notice.
ReplyDeleteGood luck!